Are you single and thinking of trying an online dating site for the first time, but aren’t sure if it’s for you? Or perhaps you’ve tried online dating, but haven’t found the perfect match and are ready to move on? According to Helen Meets Troy founder, Binnings Bent it is possible to find love online, he found his perfect match, and is engaged to be married. Binnings has seen both the good and bad in online dating, and that’s why he created his new online dating site Helen Meets Troy which has a patented face program that helps you pick the right person for you. Binnings was kind enough to join me for an interview recently to discuss his new site, how it differs from the others, what age range the site is for and much more!
Candace Rose: Can you tell us about your new online dating site Helen Meets Troy?
Binnings Bent: “I basically was like most of the people who are out there on online dating, I was signed up for a bunch – Match, eHarmony and not really having a lot of luck. It wasn’t that the people were bad people, it’s just the people that it was matching me up with, we weren’t compatible. I’m a bit of a nerd so I started investigating more and more and started realizing that their algorithms are really skewed toward the female audience and what that does is it messes up the matching structure. We’re not getting half of what you are and what you want and who you’re looking for versus who is looking for you and who they are. That should be a 50/50 so you can match appropriately. A lot of these other companies, their matching structure is skewed to cheat the numbers so that more people get more matches at a higher match percentage, and it’ll change all the time. That’s not good because you’ll get somebody who you’re not a match with.
It was frustrating and in finding those problems I started creating solutions for them and then built a team. We patented a cool new technology, and now we’re getting out there for the rest of the world to have a easier faster dating site that works well.”
Candace Rose: How did you come up with the name, Helen Meets Troy?
Binnings Bent: “The story of Helen of Troy is an old Greek mythology story where she was the most beautiful woman in the world, and there was a World War started where the leaders of two different factions fought for Helen and the winner would get Helen. Many nights (when I was going to bed) my dad would tell us a poem and one of the ones he would say was ‘Is this the face that launched a thousand ships, and burnt the topless towers of Ilium?’ He’d go through the whole poem but it was something about that experience and that poem stayed in my head, so when I was making this face program which is our groundbreaking technology – we have made a program that learns what you find subconsciously attractive or unattractive or just important in a face, and it uses that to help match people in a stronger way.
We’re finally getting the other half of the pie which is your visual preference as well, and not just the personality and lifestyle preferences. We also have this other bit which we all desire, which is somebody which we would launch a thousand ships for and go to war for because we love them so much.”
Candace Rose: How does your site, Helen Meets Troy differ from other dating sites?
Binnings Bent: “In quite a few ways. Most sites are either very superficial – they ask questions like ‘Do you like going to movies?’ ‘Do you like eating dinner?’ Yes, great, we’re all 100% matches because we all like going to the movies. What we’ve tried to do is we’ve tackled it from more of a root of who you are, the subconscious form of yourself. An example I like to give is, let’s say on your second birthday you have an aunt or uncle who blew out your candles before you had a chance to do it – that’s a negative memory in your mind that is subconsciously repressed and stored, but consciously you don’t think about it every day. It doesn’t serve you a purpose to be dwelling on that everyday, but when you see somebody or your interact with somebody who either resembles them visually or through their personality, there’s a negative memory that’s attached to that, that is a turn off to you.
What we’ve tried to do with the website is through the personality questionnaire and through the visual portion of the website, we want to learn those subconscious cues that either turn you on or turn you off to somebody, and use that as a stronger portion of our matching.”
Candace Rose: Who is Helen Meets Troy for? Is there a certain range? Is the website for everyone?
Binnings Bent: “Everybody who is single. As long as you’re over 18 so you’re an adult. If you are single and frustrated with what’s out there, get on Helen Meets Troy. What we like to say is if your match is on Helen Meets Troy, we will find them and show them to you. With most other sites, if your perfect person is on the site, you may never find them because their search programs and their matching structures are very flawed.”
Candace Rose: What advice do you have for someone who is looking to find love, but is fearful of trying an online dating site?
Binnings Bent: “Going to the library and ignoring the card catalog just to wander the rows of stacks hoping you’ll find the right book, is the same as just going out in life and hoping you bump into your dream person. A dating site is basically like Google. It’s a search tool that helps find what you’re looking for faster. If you just go out and you hope that it happens, it may happen. I however met my fiancee online by accident. If I tried to wait and meet her in real life, fate was not putting us together. We worked at the same office, we went to the gym at the same time on the same days and worked out on different floors. We had mutual friends. She is 5’11” and I’m 6’5″. We stand out. We should have bumped into each other many times, but we didn’t until I searched for her and found her online.”
Candace Rose: Do you have any additional information you’d like to share with us, Binnings?
Binnings Bent: “Right now everything is free. We are ramping up and we are getting exponentially more and more people everyday, so we will be turning that free option off soon, so definitely check it out. At some point it will always be free to sign up and check it out, but the extra options to be able to communicate – you’ll have to pay for a membership at some point.
What we have that is so unique is the face program. It is like Pandora for radio, is what we do for faces on a dating site. Just a simple thumbs up, thumbs down and the program starts learning subconsciously what you’re trying to communicate. The way our brains are wired is you can’t consciously communicate what you see visually, so that saying ‘a picture is worth a thousand words’ is very accurate to how we’re put together. If I was just describing a blonde with blue eyes and a heart shaped face, you wouldn’t know that I was specifically describing Marilyn Monroe because there aren’t enough visual words/descriptive terms for me to do that until I start saying something about her career. With our brains we have created a translator that lets the website learn what you are trying to say when you say ‘I want to meet somebody who likes going skydiving’. That’s easy, you can put that in to a program and the word says it ‘skydiving’. But to say what you’re looking for in those little cues that either really turn you on about somebody or really turn you off have never before been able to found on the computer, and we have patented the process and we are providing it to people at Helen Meets Troy to help them find their perfect person.”